Tips dating newly divorced man
A floppy relationship triangle exists when the man in question is at the apex of that triangle and the two women are represented by the other two points.
Each woman is connected to the man but they are not usually connected to each other. The gamut can run from two women who have known one another in the past, even possibly friends, to total strangers who are now connected to each other only by being attached in some way to the same man.
Many people considering divorce are in the throes of conflict and don’t want another source of trouble adding to what is already a difficult situation.
That is especially true if the new relationship can threaten the other partner’s potential access to resources or loss of what they have.
They are at a loss when it happens, but still feel attached to their history, friends, children, financial situation, mutual families, and a deeper caring.
After a time apart, they realize that they want to make the relationship work and are highly motivated to make that happen.
There are many factors that can affect these triangulated relationships, and how they are combined can affect the outcome in different ways.
Over time, and especially if they’ve been in disappointing other relationships, they miss each other again and valiantly try to “make it work.” If they don’t see those patterns and correct them, that process will occur until they either wear each other out or find someone they’d rather invest in.
Committed partners who still care deeply for one another, on the other hand, often separate because of external stress, worn-out interactions, infidelities, or a slow drift-apart that neither realized could have ended up in a separation.
If the separated man isn’t sure about reconnecting with his partner and a new relationship would make that option far less likely, he may not want to lose those choices so chooses to keep his options open by separating those two worlds.
The heartache that arises if and when those clandestine relationships are discovered never harbors a good outcome.