She claims she has evidence (anecdotal from her friends) that the large majority of women don’t like anal sex and that they shouldn’t have to put up with a growing societal expectation of it becoming a normal sex practice.Urban Dater has since posted a rebuttal piece (hehehe, rebuttal), although whether it’s an apology from the site or infighting among its writers is unclear.(*as long as it’s consensual, but come on, do I really have to specify that?) Some women do report stronger orgasms as a direct result of anal sex.To imply that women who choose to have a certain kind of sex because they enjoy satisfying their partners is offensively patronizing.Personally I think most women are big girls who are capable of making decisions about the kinds of sex they do and do not want to have, and I trust every consenting adult to act in their own best interest.Some women report masturbating anally on their own or engaging in anal penetration with female partners, meaning it is possible to achieve pleasure from anal sex that has nothing to do with the involvement of men.
As Charlie Glickman, author of “The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure,” has famously said, “When you can’t be present in your ass, you can’t be fully present in your body.” I don’t expect every guy to be into anal penetration.
Finally there are women who may enjoy anal sex because they enjoy pleasing their partners.
(As a service-oriented submissive, I fall into this category, too.) And newsflash: It’s totally OK to enjoy something because you enjoy pleasing the person you’re with.
Luckily the same philosophy I subscribe to that advocates for women to have the right to enjoy the kind of sex they like without being judged for it also ascribes the same right to men. And yet it is that very taboo, that shame that is caught up in our asses, that is the very reason I find anal sex so important.
It’s about accepting your partner’s (and your own) full self in bodily form.